My Territory and Influence (Part 1)
The Story of Maxwell
Maxwell was the only son in a family of six, growing up in a household marked by domestic violence. His father, Sir Richardson, a teacher, regularly abused Maxwell's mother, an asthmatic petty trader, for reasons as trivial as not having a meal ready after work. Despite her poor health, Mrs. Richardson's voice was stifled in the home, reduced to fulfilling what society stereotypically deemed "women’s duties."
This toxic environment impacted Maxwell deeply. He began mimicking his father's abusive tendencies, particularly toward his younger sisters. An incident where he struck his sister Ella in the eye caused severe injury, further illustrating the cascading effects of influence.
Maxwell carried this behavior into adulthood, becoming a man who abused his wife early in their marriage. The tipping point came one Sunday morning when, in a fit of rage over her makeup, Maxwell fatally pushed his wife during an argument. Realizing his actions, Maxwell was consumed with guilt but unable to undo the tragedy. This tragic sequence of events demonstrates the profound, often cyclical nature of influence.
Understanding Influence
Influence is the capacity to affect individuals or situations in significant ways. It is like a seed—planted early, it grows and manifests over time, shaping lives and destinies. However, influence is never neutral; it is either positive or negative. Neutrality, in essence, is a form of passivity that diminishes potential impact.
Factors Shaping Influence
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Internal Factors
These are the values, beliefs, and choices that originate from within. Internal factors allow individuals to:- Design their lives by aligning actions with their values.
- Decide which influences to embrace or reject.
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External Factors
External influences are shaped by:- Environment: What you see, hear, and experience daily.
- Social interactions: The behavior and actions of those around you.
- Biological and intellectual factors: Circumstances outside immediate control but capable of shaping thought patterns and actions.
The Power of Choice in Influence
Regardless of the origin—internal or external—every individual possesses the power to choose how they respond. Your decisions determine:
- Whether you live a purpose-driven life aligned with your Creator’s intent.
- Whether you positively or negatively influence those around you.
- Whether your legacy becomes an asset to future generations or a cautionary tale.
Maxwell's story demonstrates the dangers of negative influence and the failure to break harmful cycles. It serves as a reminder of the responsibility each person bears to evaluate the influences they accept and project.
Final Thoughts
Influence is powerful, shaping not only your life but also those of the people around you. Whether through internal values or external circumstances, the options you choose ultimately define your character and impact.
Choose wisely to ensure your influence becomes a positive legacy.
Anticipate Part 2: My Territory and My Influence.
©2020 A.S Tadobo
Sam Thardos Consult