OVERCOMING THE CHALLENGES OF LIVING A FULFILLED LIFE
Fulfiment is a nice concept, but the details thereof and its harnessing can at times pose not to be so nice or be an easy task .
Days are heavily and evidentially full of hurdles and also free tracks are loaded therein.
We all face obstacles one point or the other, although challenges are definitely different but there exist similarities.
Life in one of the phases of definition given by people means it is a battle field; no human can deny that he never faced it or still fighting on the battlefield.
Challenges are like foes, which the effects of their collision with you may be adverse (frustration and death) or a glorious one, if you refuse to heartily fight and respond proactively and actively, the former may be your lot but if you therefore respond proactively and heartily, the latter will definitely be your lot.
Some people do respond head on and while others cower at the sight of challenges.
The challenges of life seem to be continuous in our daily living, but get this, it does not matter the ones you are currently facing, what is expedient is that you must possess the secret and ever licensed codes that can make it easy for you to overcome.
Overcoming the challenges of living a fulfilled life
It is essential that we identify some of the challenges of living a fulfilled life before we proceed.
I said it earlier that we all face challenges on our journey in life, most especially that of a journey towards attaining a height in life.
Everyone experience obstacles, though personal but apparently similar to themselves.
We at times experience challenges not because we are at fault initially but the decision to tread the path of difference for exploits that we embrace enlist us for life’s battles and responsively do launch challenges on the path of he that dares to tread on the path of difference and fulfilment.
Among the challenges that inseparably run with the journey of fulfilment are;
1. A fight from your past (background)
The past is never is at peace that you are living its circumference, so it will always do everything possible to ensure that it brings you back under its control.
2. Self-management
Now that you have found a new path, your living (pattern and mode of doing things, responses, though pattern etc) can no longer be the same.
Then there always exist the struggle to manage your present new found path as opposed living in the old pattern of life. Your time and resources get to take a new shape but the old pattern is very much available to hinder you.
3. Constant loss of friends
Whenever you decide to embark on the journey of fulfilment, there are some of your friends that they have no journey at all to make, so they will surely fight you and on the long run if they can’t bring you down again to join their clan, you will definitely lose them.
Your own journey is different therefore your friends will be few.
4. Lack of supposed resources
At the onset when you decide to make a difference, the resources will seem to be scarce. This is a serious challenge.
5. Stuck of personality (Lack of experience)
Experiences do help to ease a work to be done. Now that you are new on this journey, it will definitely look like you have nothing to work with. It is not your fault but the newness of yours.
He who is a new comer on board have nothing much to roll out than to take his time to observe and learn.
6. Missed feelings about the unknown (I haven't been there, so I wonder what it will be like)
7. The "what if I fail" whispers
8. People's harassment and opinions
Every difference is always on the frontline for criticism. Now that you have decided to make your own life a difference, criticism and all sort of harassment are bound to hunt and hurt your personality.
9. Workload on your table
And so on
Now, let's get on set as regards the overcoming of any form of obstacle that may pose itself on your path to living that ordained life (fulfilled life).
When people talk about facing obstacles and several impediments and they begin to figure out the workable solutions, they will tell you to be persistent, be disciplined, stay focus etc and then they summarily make the conclusion.
Yeah, that structure is a nice one but friends why must we try to lay bricks (practicing focus, discipline etc ) without setting aright the foundation that will carry the building.
For understanding and balance, I think a man is to first of all have a meeting with the background and introduction of a study and not the conclusion----- You will understand this by that time I'm done with this article.
Let's restructure some bricks of this pattern as you carefully pay attention to this eye opener.
I know you definitely have different ideas and patterns heard and once practiced or still practicing as regards finding out your way out of challenges of living a desired life but can I ask you a question?
I know your patterns or ideas or suggestions are yielding emancipation in a little way or even no result at all, but do you know there is a sure and helpful but neglected pattern of the ancient for navigating through challenges victoriously?.
I have tried this severally and guess what? It worked and still working!
The ultimate foundation you must know and lay when trying to deal with challenges on the path to greatness and fulfilment is the God factor and the rightness of the mind.
Some coaches in the school of counseling on life matters do make these factors the roof (conclusion) of their advices whereas these drowning and dying folks needs to be fully aware that these factors (God factor and the rightness of the mind) are essentials for the foundation laying of any man that dare to face challenges and overcome them.
After these factors are in place, let's launch out for the 3-heads push that the today's attractive survivors of challenges engaged and many wise passengers on the corridor of challenges are still using in delivering themselves from obstacles' grip.
I tagged them;
1. Right the sight
2. Locate the ladder
3. Stay the stage
1.Right the sight
When I put it to be right the sight, it simply mean that you are to understand the dynamics of that current stage of yours (understand that challenging season).
It is expedient that you right your philosophy about the concept and experience of challenges.
Many have painted and defined the stage of challenges in life in such a fearful manner that the moment you find yourself therein, you become scared and fear grips your personality and quickly try to give your potentials a funeral.
Get this friend, it was and it is their definitions not yours.
Definitions of a man on a particular subject matter are always born out of his experiences (what he faced and his responses thereof).
Right your definition because your own potentials, values and wholly your personality and your destination are not theirs.
Create your own daring and head making philosophy on the subject matter called ‘challenge’ because they will be what you will use to tackle the challenges that dare come your way unto fulfilment.
This your new philosophy will definitely and undoubtedly design your new world of possibilities.
Install the beautiful and gainful sight of challenges in your human system.
Make it a new reality to yourself that challenges come your path to fan out (refine) and reveal your true beauty (manifestation of your potentials).
You may not know you are well loaded until challenges come to squeeze out the best in you. A man will never believe he can run as far as possible until a calamity pursues him physically.
Challenges are value revealers, please know this for sure. The size and weight of that challenge is a good pointer to the size and weight of what is to be revealed in you.
Pin this, treasures are not meant to be discovered easily; you are valuable and valuables don't appear until they have been overly tried and refined by what seems to be unpleasant, therefore face that challenging moment with right sight that something worthwhile is coming your way and coming forth from you.
Note that the way you response to challenges can holistically structure and define your placement in life.
Get this, life matters and hurdles are not designed to be too easy therefore expect the unexpected and be set to respond without wavering.
When the impediments of fulfilment put you in a tight corner and everything seem to be rough and tough, never permit that failure's anthem of ‘why me’ from your lips, but rather declare boldly ‘dare/try me’.
Let me quickly tell you this emotions are good but friend, when you are face to face with daring obstacles, ensure your emotions have root in the new philosophy of yours on challenges (set them aright).
Overcoming challenges at times sincerely on the path to fulfilment doesn't need much of your physical strength but ultimately your mental strength.
And I tell you this, friends, when your sight of challenges is set aright, certain percentage and miles are covered already.
Every problem has its own gift at hand earnestly waiting for its conqueror to present it to him; that glorious gift is yours if only you dare to first set your sight of problem aright.
2. Locate the ladder
Locating the ladder means leveraging!
You are not the first person to face challenges on the bid for fulfilment and truthfully you cannot be the last or even the worse person, therefore to hook up is the saving mode!.
Here, locating the ladders mean look out for men and their resources who have passed through that stage of yours.
If you can't meet them facially, pursue and lay hands on their resources like books, audios and so on.
Men can serve as anything anytime for you. It is therefore left to you but I do like to advise you that you make men as ladders to be an escape route to leave that valley of helplessness.
Get this, when you arrive on this planet Earth, you came alone but honestly there are so many entanglements (some are even capable of pinning you down for a life-time), you can't apparently live alone and survive them, you need men.
No one exists in isolation.
If you dare keep to yourself and never launch out for help and support on life's matters (like the necessaries needed to navigate through), you may die(this form of death can at times be gradual) in that isolation and you have by that reason useless your potentials for greatness.
They do say that problem shared is half solved.
Yeah, that's nice but as a dying man on the corridor of challenges, it is important that the problem is shared with the personality who is capable to serve as ladder directly or indirectly, not the one that will sink you the more.
Locate the graduates not the drop outs!
Though the sincere drop outs may offer seemingly helping advices but honestly the contents of the graduates are far nourishing than that of the drop outs.
There are men who are far away from you, reach out for their help and also there are men who are very much close to you, be it your parents, siblings and other relatives, even your religious leaders, why not leverage on their persons and rise beyond the limit where challenges can mess with you anyhow.
The fathers' shoulders are meant for the ones in need of help and height.
When you launch out your hands for help, the helped will be signaled to come for your help.
Pressing contents poured out before the excellent and attractive alumni of the school of challenges is readiness to partner and identify with the register of attainment of the attained.
Whenever you have an example (men and their resources) to relate with, you will definitely love to continue on this field of fulfilment because their strength has been released into you.
Get this, Men and their resources as ladders;
-motivate you to climb new more steps
- guide and guards you to attain
-gives height to be worthwhile in pursuit
Getting knowledge and experiential talks from the attained is a weapon for conquering.
Knowledge coupled with the understanding is weaponic (smiles, if there is any grammar like that anyways).
3. Stay the stage
After you have the right sight and with that, you have located the ladders for hooking up with overcomig fulfilment's challenges, the next assignment of yours is this.....
Get this, the fact that you have right sight of challenges and being on the fathers' shoulders doesn't mean challenges will automatically vanish, no!
And that is why stay the stage is essential in overcoming challenges over and over again.
Stay the stage means maintain the ground/place of right sight and fathers' shoulders by breathing and living in the engagement of the sustaining ingredients/essentials so as to arrive at a desired destination per time.
You then may be wondering what the stay then stage/course ingredients are.
These essential ingredients are the supposed first set of advices usually rolled out to drowning and dying persons in the pool of challenges, whereas these advices are meant for the person to enable him stay on course when all is been set up or has been set up for his better living.
I'm sure you have heard of concept like discipline, focus, responsibility, and so on. They are the essentials for staying on course/stage.
But for the sake of this discussion of ours and with the sense of laudable results, I will like to un-bottle some powerful ingredients asides the ones you obviously have the awareness of. Among them are;
1. Change your styles
Pin this, nothing is constant. The challenges are dynamic in throwing life's stones at you therefore you can't afford to be static in your approaches and responses.
Change is the order of the day, not only for plant or animals or humans but also for challenges because obstacles or traps at times are in disguise in order to hunt you down.
It is therefore important that if you must successfully navigate through hurdles that fulfilment entails, be dynamic (chameleon approach is necessary).
The Yorubas will tell you that he who want to catch a monkey must act like a monkey too.
If you desire to forever stay on the stage of fulfilment, employ the diversification of manners and responses. This is essential because you might get frustrated and weak if your constant styles seem not yielding substantial results.
It is a height of madness whenever a man sticks to a long time formular that have never turn out best or better results.
Change your styles and your state will change.
2. Be calm to ease your acceleration
In overcoming obstacles on the path to fulfilment, it is necessary that you take your time; one step at a time.
It is not everyone that dare to rush crumble challenges that live to tell the story, therefore systematically take your time in the place of preparation to crumble that opposition on your way.
Get this, no matter how magnificent a mountain (an opposition) may be, if you take your time with continuous steps each day, you can either make that mountain plain or decide to climb and arrive at the mountain top.
3. The whatever it takes attitude is a game changer to be employed
If you are silent the obstacles will still speak, if you are responding the obstacles will still respond, but note that someone must win the game, therefore in order to forever be a master on this, put on the attitude of whatever it takes.
A king can't afford to joke with whatever that poses threat to his reign, he dismantles them with all of sense of urgency.
Dare the dare so that you can be the dear.
©A.S. Tadobo
When I put it to be right the sight, it simply mean that you are to understand the dynamics of that current stage of yours (understand that challenging season).
It is expedient that you right your philosophy about the concept and experience of challenges.
Many have painted and defined the stage of challenges in life in such a fearful manner that the moment you find yourself therein, you become scared and fear grips your personality and quickly try to give your potentials a funeral.
Get this friend, it was and it is their definitions not yours.
Definitions of a man on a particular subject matter are always born out of his experiences (what he faced and his responses thereof).
Right your definition because your own potentials, values and wholly your personality and your destination are not theirs.
Create your own daring and head making philosophy on the subject matter called ‘challenge’ because they will be what you will use to tackle the challenges that dare come your way unto fulfilment.
This your new philosophy will definitely and undoubtedly design your new world of possibilities.
Install the beautiful and gainful sight of challenges in your human system.
Make it a new reality to yourself that challenges come your path to fan out (refine) and reveal your true beauty (manifestation of your potentials).
You may not know you are well loaded until challenges come to squeeze out the best in you. A man will never believe he can run as far as possible until a calamity pursues him physically.
Challenges are value revealers, please know this for sure. The size and weight of that challenge is a good pointer to the size and weight of what is to be revealed in you.
Pin this, treasures are not meant to be discovered easily; you are valuable and valuables don't appear until they have been overly tried and refined by what seems to be unpleasant, therefore face that challenging moment with right sight that something worthwhile is coming your way and coming forth from you.
Note that the way you response to challenges can holistically structure and define your placement in life.
Get this, life matters and hurdles are not designed to be too easy therefore expect the unexpected and be set to respond without wavering.
When the impediments of fulfilment put you in a tight corner and everything seem to be rough and tough, never permit that failure's anthem of ‘why me’ from your lips, but rather declare boldly ‘dare/try me’.
Let me quickly tell you this emotions are good but friend, when you are face to face with daring obstacles, ensure your emotions have root in the new philosophy of yours on challenges (set them aright).
Overcoming challenges at times sincerely on the path to fulfilment doesn't need much of your physical strength but ultimately your mental strength.
And I tell you this, friends, when your sight of challenges is set aright, certain percentage and miles are covered already.
Every problem has its own gift at hand earnestly waiting for its conqueror to present it to him; that glorious gift is yours if only you dare to first set your sight of problem aright.
2. Locate the ladder
Locating the ladder means leveraging!
You are not the first person to face challenges on the bid for fulfilment and truthfully you cannot be the last or even the worse person, therefore to hook up is the saving mode!.
Here, locating the ladders mean look out for men and their resources who have passed through that stage of yours.
If you can't meet them facially, pursue and lay hands on their resources like books, audios and so on.
Men can serve as anything anytime for you. It is therefore left to you but I do like to advise you that you make men as ladders to be an escape route to leave that valley of helplessness.
Get this, when you arrive on this planet Earth, you came alone but honestly there are so many entanglements (some are even capable of pinning you down for a life-time), you can't apparently live alone and survive them, you need men.
No one exists in isolation.
If you dare keep to yourself and never launch out for help and support on life's matters (like the necessaries needed to navigate through), you may die(this form of death can at times be gradual) in that isolation and you have by that reason useless your potentials for greatness.
They do say that problem shared is half solved.
Yeah, that's nice but as a dying man on the corridor of challenges, it is important that the problem is shared with the personality who is capable to serve as ladder directly or indirectly, not the one that will sink you the more.
Locate the graduates not the drop outs!
Though the sincere drop outs may offer seemingly helping advices but honestly the contents of the graduates are far nourishing than that of the drop outs.
There are men who are far away from you, reach out for their help and also there are men who are very much close to you, be it your parents, siblings and other relatives, even your religious leaders, why not leverage on their persons and rise beyond the limit where challenges can mess with you anyhow.
The fathers' shoulders are meant for the ones in need of help and height.
When you launch out your hands for help, the helped will be signaled to come for your help.
Pressing contents poured out before the excellent and attractive alumni of the school of challenges is readiness to partner and identify with the register of attainment of the attained.
Whenever you have an example (men and their resources) to relate with, you will definitely love to continue on this field of fulfilment because their strength has been released into you.
Get this, Men and their resources as ladders;
-motivate you to climb new more steps
- guide and guards you to attain
-gives height to be worthwhile in pursuit
Getting knowledge and experiential talks from the attained is a weapon for conquering.
Knowledge coupled with the understanding is weaponic (smiles, if there is any grammar like that anyways).
3. Stay the stage
After you have the right sight and with that, you have located the ladders for hooking up with overcomig fulfilment's challenges, the next assignment of yours is this.....
Get this, the fact that you have right sight of challenges and being on the fathers' shoulders doesn't mean challenges will automatically vanish, no!
And that is why stay the stage is essential in overcoming challenges over and over again.
Stay the stage means maintain the ground/place of right sight and fathers' shoulders by breathing and living in the engagement of the sustaining ingredients/essentials so as to arrive at a desired destination per time.
You then may be wondering what the stay then stage/course ingredients are.
These essential ingredients are the supposed first set of advices usually rolled out to drowning and dying persons in the pool of challenges, whereas these advices are meant for the person to enable him stay on course when all is been set up or has been set up for his better living.
I'm sure you have heard of concept like discipline, focus, responsibility, and so on. They are the essentials for staying on course/stage.
But for the sake of this discussion of ours and with the sense of laudable results, I will like to un-bottle some powerful ingredients asides the ones you obviously have the awareness of. Among them are;
1. Change your styles
Pin this, nothing is constant. The challenges are dynamic in throwing life's stones at you therefore you can't afford to be static in your approaches and responses.
Change is the order of the day, not only for plant or animals or humans but also for challenges because obstacles or traps at times are in disguise in order to hunt you down.
It is therefore important that if you must successfully navigate through hurdles that fulfilment entails, be dynamic (chameleon approach is necessary).
The Yorubas will tell you that he who want to catch a monkey must act like a monkey too.
If you desire to forever stay on the stage of fulfilment, employ the diversification of manners and responses. This is essential because you might get frustrated and weak if your constant styles seem not yielding substantial results.
It is a height of madness whenever a man sticks to a long time formular that have never turn out best or better results.
Change your styles and your state will change.
2. Be calm to ease your acceleration
In overcoming obstacles on the path to fulfilment, it is necessary that you take your time; one step at a time.
It is not everyone that dare to rush crumble challenges that live to tell the story, therefore systematically take your time in the place of preparation to crumble that opposition on your way.
Get this, no matter how magnificent a mountain (an opposition) may be, if you take your time with continuous steps each day, you can either make that mountain plain or decide to climb and arrive at the mountain top.
3. The whatever it takes attitude is a game changer to be employed
If you are silent the obstacles will still speak, if you are responding the obstacles will still respond, but note that someone must win the game, therefore in order to forever be a master on this, put on the attitude of whatever it takes.
A king can't afford to joke with whatever that poses threat to his reign, he dismantles them with all of sense of urgency.
Dare the dare so that you can be the dear.
©A.S. Tadobo
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